It’s probably happened to you too. One day, you open your email and all of a sudden, that account that never had spam before, is now flooded with it. Awful, crazy, negative emails. Ugh! We know better than to read these things, and we put a system in place to filter them out. Easy peasy.
Can you imagine receiving up to 70,000 spam every day, and not having a filter that would sort out the negative emails from the good ones? Yikes!
And yet, on any given day this happens to the super computer that sits on your shoulders.
That’s right – it’s incredible isn’t it? Your mind processes approximately 70,000 thoughts a day, and those thoughts are what influence your every move – and often, in negative ways that make you stuck, ways that keep you from taking action and experiencing greater success.
How do I know this?
Again and again women just like you, tell me they hear their inner critic, and it’s stopping them from thinking they can do bigger things, be greater women in business, and have more success. They hear the voice in the back of their head saying things like:
Who are you to ….?
Why would anyone take you seriously?
Anyone can do what you do!
Do you get this thought spam too?
You’re not alone, it happens to everyone sometimes. The important thing is to know that you are in control, not your mind’s thoughts. This post is the first in a two part series on taking your power back from negative thinking! (Click here for Part 2)
Here are three easy steps to keep thought spam in check!
1. Know that your mind does not always tell you the truth.
Sometimes people take it for granted that if they think it, it’s true. This is NOT the case. Your thoughts are shaped and molded from your experiences from the day you were born. Like a recipe of what people told you, what you believed, and what you internalized. The voice you hear in your head telling you negative things, might not be your voice at all – it might be the voice of someone from your past!
2. Start paying attention to your self-talk.
What are you repeatedly saying to yourself? Many times, people say things to themselves they would never say to another human being. I remember when I was extremely overweight, one day I realized I was telling myself that I was fat and ugly (among other things). I was shocked because I’d never say something so hurtful to someone else. I wondered what else I was telling myself, and I began to pay attention to my internal dialogue. It was an eye-opener for me, and I know it will be for you too.
3. Reframe from negative to positive.
Don’t let yourself go unchecked. Act as if it were someone else saying these things to you, and reframe your thought in the next moment. Correct yourself out loud. Support your defense with the truth of who you are. Flip it around and stop using those negative words that become your self-designated labels.
If you practice these three key things consistently, it will become second nature, and you will create a new mindset that thinks in support of you, not against you!
Be sure to check back next week for Part 2, and find out if you’re being psychic!